By Christopher Lane, Ph.D.
This article talks about how the American Psychaitric Association having floated the idea of
"Apathy Disorder" to see how many fish they could catch. And just to see if it would catch on. This organization has generated large amounts of publicity this week. Now their newest idea is whether or not Bitterness should worm its way into the mental disorder category.
Bitterness is "so common and so deeply destructive," writes Shari Roan at the Los Angeles Times, "that some psychiatrists are urging it be identified as a mental illness under the name post-traumatic embitterment disorder."
I would have to agree with Christopher Lane on this one, because for the rest of this article he pokes fun at the whole idea of having Bitterness jump in with all the other actually Mental Disorders. It would just be another excuse for people to jump on the disorder band wagon. It's and awful idea for them to import random ideas and pawn them off as disorders.
Friday, May 29, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
An hour a day makes you more aggressive apparently
According to a 17-year study, adolecents that watch more than an hour a day makes them more likely to commit violent acts as adults. Yes, 17-years of this. What I don't quite understand is how more than 1 hour can really affect someone so deeply. Unless they were straped to a chair and droned to their very core could an hour-and a half of television make for a monsterous adult.
How does this make any sense at all? Sure they can hurl their numbers and their statistics and their percentages at you but what does it all mean? Also what are they trying to gain by telling people that letting your children watch more than an hour a day will lead them down a path of violence? This adolecents aren't sitting around watching slasher films all day, teenagers and children just want to sit down and watch tv. This whole study just seems to me to be anothing thing they're trying to convince parents to put a stricter hold on their children.
How does this make any sense at all? Sure they can hurl their numbers and their statistics and their percentages at you but what does it all mean? Also what are they trying to gain by telling people that letting your children watch more than an hour a day will lead them down a path of violence? This adolecents aren't sitting around watching slasher films all day, teenagers and children just want to sit down and watch tv. This whole study just seems to me to be anothing thing they're trying to convince parents to put a stricter hold on their children.
Nokomis: Help or Hurt?
My strengths are not very defined to me. Lucky for me our school has the blessed "Career Pathways" program (Gags self). This program tries to draw out the strengths and weaknesses for its unexpecting prey. However taking that multiple intelligence test in Psychology and comparing it to test taken in the past in the beginning of my high school career. It seems to me that my intelligences have actually improved.
So how then could I say that the msad48 district has not helped me in someway to improve my intelligence? In the beginning of this high school experience I was a shy person with an interest in music. (So said my intelligence test) Now, I'm more of an outgoing person and have been able to take advantage of the opportunities the school can provide. However I don't think the school academics is really the thing you should say was the reason for multiple intelligence improvement. It's more of the environments the school makes rather than academics in classes.
So how then could I say that the msad48 district has not helped me in someway to improve my intelligence? In the beginning of this high school experience I was a shy person with an interest in music. (So said my intelligence test) Now, I'm more of an outgoing person and have been able to take advantage of the opportunities the school can provide. However I don't think the school academics is really the thing you should say was the reason for multiple intelligence improvement. It's more of the environments the school makes rather than academics in classes.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Will Our Kids Be Happy? Why we don't allow them to find out for themselves?
Stanton Peele talks about the children on technology. They kids that are growing up with iPhone and probably in the future robots. Peele wonders if in the very near future kids won't be going outside to play, but simply surfing the web for something fun to do. Peele says that many people think it's paving the way for smarter and more productive children who will achieve more in their later lives. But as for Peele, he's skeptical on the whole movement.
He talkes of days when children would have to go outside to find their fun. It was a time when children's imaginations were allowed to roam free, and you could play for hours without having to stop and text your friend and the new phone you got (but it has a keyboard!) Peele wonders if people will use neuroscience to discovers what makes kids happy.
It sounds like a sarcastically written article about how children of the new age have come to rely on technology for fun. I can see where he's coming from. Maybe children now are being the short end of the stick, perhaps they're less happy and less inventive. But then of course on the other hand, maybe they'll be more intellectual and more intuative.
I don't think this article is quite to the level of contributing anything new to psychology. Howeverm I do think that it is asking questions that will be explored more by other people. Then I'm sure we will get the answers and those answers will be helpful to psychology.
Peele, Stanton. Will our kids be happy? Why we don't allow them to find out for themselves. 13, March 2009. Psychology Today Online. 26 March 2009.
http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/addiction-in-society/200903/will-our-kids-be-happy-why-we-dont-allow-them-find-out-themselves
He talkes of days when children would have to go outside to find their fun. It was a time when children's imaginations were allowed to roam free, and you could play for hours without having to stop and text your friend and the new phone you got (but it has a keyboard!) Peele wonders if people will use neuroscience to discovers what makes kids happy.
It sounds like a sarcastically written article about how children of the new age have come to rely on technology for fun. I can see where he's coming from. Maybe children now are being the short end of the stick, perhaps they're less happy and less inventive. But then of course on the other hand, maybe they'll be more intellectual and more intuative.
I don't think this article is quite to the level of contributing anything new to psychology. Howeverm I do think that it is asking questions that will be explored more by other people. Then I'm sure we will get the answers and those answers will be helpful to psychology.
Peele, Stanton. Will our kids be happy? Why we don't allow them to find out for themselves. 13, March 2009. Psychology Today Online. 26 March 2009.
http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/addiction-in-society/200903/will-our-kids-be-happy-why-we-dont-allow-them-find-out-themselves
The Failure of Male Initiation in Post-modern Culture
Michael J. Formica writes about the fact that men are not taught how to access their emotions. He says, "Plainly put, boys will be boys and men will be boys -- because no one is there to teach boys to be men." He goes on to talk about women in out culture have biologically-based rites of passge that allows a clear path towards womanhood.Since the Industrial Revolution men lost some things that were key points to a smiliar social rites of passge. Affecting boys, making them loose the conect of their manhood. He saus that global continuity of femal social development and socialization has made a sort of group momentum but when boys go through the process they split in a dramatic way.
So according to Formica, you can re-parent the things involved with making a boy into a man. Using the idea of strength in numbers to give boys the manhood they are robbed of. He thinks that it's essential for them to find this manhood to define and find themselves.
I thought this was a really interesting article. To think that the rites of passage were happening around us without really noticing it at all. Maybe ever explaining why girls have close bonds, perhaps they're formed over the crossing from girls into womanhood. Perhaps this gives a reason why boys are deamed more independent, but perhaps this means it's not as good as they thought if it's striping boys of their manhood. I'd want to see somekind of article on steps it would take for a boy/man to cross over into his manhood.
Formica, Michael J. Male Initiation in Post-modern Culture26 March 2009. Psychology Today Online. 26 March 2009.
http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/enlightened-living/200903/the-failure-male-initiation-in-post-modern-culture
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Memory
I very very recently did my memory test on one of my friends. The 4 memories I told her were about making a fort, playing pretend in a basement, drag racing shopping carts and getting lost while shopping for her mother's day gift with her dad. Obviously being the little copycat I am, the one about getting lost is the fake. When asked to rate the memories on a scale of 1-5, 5 being "I really remember this" and 1 being "I think you're making this up." She rated the fort a 5, the basement as a 3.25, the shopping carts as a 1.75 and getting lost (the fake) as a 2.5. When I told her that one of the memories were a fake, she first called me names, and then she wanted to guess which one was fake. She assumed it was the memory that she least remembered being drag racing shopping carts one day before going to camp. When I told her which one was actually the fake she started talking about memories of us getting lost, different from the one I told her. The memory she told me about us getting lost I would rate about a 1.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
The Illusion of College Drinking
Erik Strand writes an article on the misconceptions of college drinking. According to a study held at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, clearing to misconceptions they can reduce alcohol consumption on campuses. Saying that the drunk frat boy is a myth and when students found out that their fellow classmates were not the heavy drinkers they thought, they cut back on their own drinking.
Robert Foss of the UNC Highway Safty Research Center measured blood alcohol concentration of 2,00 students returning to their living areas on a party night. They found that two out of three students hadn't had any alcohol to drink. Mondays - Wednesdays 85% had no alcohol.
Then the researchers publicized their findings by talkins and posters distributed on campus to every dormroom. When the students were polled again 91% had herad the slogan. Student drinking had declined. The average numnber of drinks consumed by the drinkers went from 5.1 to 4.3.
This article was basically talking about how social norms can shape how other behave. I think can be important, there seems to be a way to reduce the number of college students who consume alcohol. It may not stamp out college drinking all together but it's a step forward to reducing it.
Strand, Erik. The Illusion of College Drinking. 16 Dec 2008. Psychology Today Online. March 22, 2009.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-3045.html
Robert Foss of the UNC Highway Safty Research Center measured blood alcohol concentration of 2,00 students returning to their living areas on a party night. They found that two out of three students hadn't had any alcohol to drink. Mondays - Wednesdays 85% had no alcohol.
Then the researchers publicized their findings by talkins and posters distributed on campus to every dormroom. When the students were polled again 91% had herad the slogan. Student drinking had declined. The average numnber of drinks consumed by the drinkers went from 5.1 to 4.3.
This article was basically talking about how social norms can shape how other behave. I think can be important, there seems to be a way to reduce the number of college students who consume alcohol. It may not stamp out college drinking all together but it's a step forward to reducing it.
Strand, Erik. The Illusion of College Drinking. 16 Dec 2008. Psychology Today Online. March 22, 2009.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-3045.html
Monday, March 9, 2009
The Morning
My alarm went off at around 6: 30 but I was somewhat conscious of it before it went off. But when it went off it still surprised me then I just hit snooze. When I rolled back over I told myself that I would get up the next time it went off because I had to call Jesse to get a ride to school because my car is broken. So 9 minutes later when my alarm went off I just hit snooze and rolled back over. I can't remember what I thought about while I dozed again. Then I looked back at the alarm clock to see what time it was. It was something like 6:53. So I told myself that I would get up in the next 4 minutes. So when my alarm went off, it hit me that it was around seven o'clock and that I still had to call Jesse to make sure I had a ride. So I shut off my alarm and scrunched into a ball on top of my pillows.
I couldn't hear anyone in the living room, so I figured my brothers wouldn't be up yet, so if I got everything I needed right then I could go get in the shower without being interrupted. So I grabbed the clothes I had picked out in my head the day before and went and took a shower. Before I went into the bathroom I brought the phone with me so I could call Jesse RIGHT after I got out of the shower. Because I knew that she wouldn't get up until at least after 7. So I turned on the Get Set Go CD that was in the cd player in the bathroom and I took a shower. I looked at the new clock that's hanging over the toilet just to use it because it's new and tells the time. I use to determine how long I was in the shower by how many songs had already played.
So when I got out of the shower it was about a quarter after 7. I picked up the phone and called Jesse. Her mom answered and I asked her to ask Jesse for a ride to school. I could hear her asking Jesse through a door and I could hear Jesse's answer being yes. So when I hung up I swallowed a pill I had put and taken out of my mouth while the phone was ringing. I figured I didn't have enough time or hands to swallow it properly. So I took it with a handful of water, then I got dressed. I took my tooth brush and toothpaste out of the bathroom with me and brought it out to the kitchen sink. I decided to brush my teeth out there so my brothers could get into the bathroom so they could get ready for school.
I brushed my teeth while Garett was eating a peanut butter sandwich. When I was done, I went to my room and slipped on my shoes. Then I remembered that I had to get money for my overdue cellphone bill. So I took it out of the little place I keep my money and put it into my wallet. Then my mom came in and reminded me that I had to pay my phone bill. I told her I just got the money for it. Then we started talking about what we were doing after school and I had to remind her that we were going to activate my card for when I go to Spain. We decided that she was going to pick me up at 3 after school. My cat came in and I started talking to him. Then my mom and my cat left so I decided to blow dry my hair.
I knew that I could do my make-up in Jesse's car so I decided not to bother with it at that time. So while I was blow-drying my hair I was thinking about what it would be line to blow-dry my hair in college. And if my roommate would be that girl I met at the softball thing on friday. And if it would be creepy for me to ask her if she wanted to be my roommate. When I was done blow-drying my hair I wondered how cold it was outside. Because if it was going to be like the day before I was going to wear my trench coat Katie bought me. So I started walking through my house asking how cold it would be. When I got to my parents room they told me about 40 degrees.
So I got that coat on and my bags together. Then I decided that I would bring the pink shoes that were on my table I would bring for Jesse to try on, because she has smaller feet than me and they would actually fit. So my mom and brothers went out and got in the Blazer and Jesse pulled in before my mom could pull out. So I walked out of the house with my backpack, and my little sports bag that I use as a purse and the pink shoes. I felt a little embarrassed about how the athletic bag wouldn't go with what I was wearing at all. And especially not my trench coat. But I got in the car and I told her that I brought the shoes for her to wear and she said "Good, because I really like them." Then she started talking about how she knew my mom was in the blazer and that she blocked her in. I told her it was okay, then I told her that the traffic was clear to pull out into the road. Then she looked backward while she drove and I remember thinking that she didn't have to because I don't look backward when I pull out of my driveway. Then I decided that it was okay for her to do it because we all drive differently.
She was telling me about the Semi-Formal I missed by starting out saying "I hate how people have to pick on someone because of their weight." I didn't know what she was talking about. Then she said that some girl that's friend with the person she's having trouble with. She said that the friend had said that "she had fat hanging out of her dress". So she ranted about her and so I called the friend Skanky. We talked about it for a while, then we were on a totally different topic for a while. When we were in Newport, even though the subject was long passed, all I could think was that that friend is a skank. So I told Jesse about that, then when we were going into the elementary school zone a cop was coming out, and I got nervous but then I reminded myself that we weren't doing anything wrong. Then further up in the school zone a cop had pulled someone over, then I thought about how I've seen at least 4 people pulled over in the past week and how I usually don't see many people pulled over. Then I was looking at the rear lights and I remember thinking before that they were blinkers or something. Then I thought that there was no one pulled over because I couldn't see anyone behind the police car the way it was parked. So I asked "Does he want to get out?" Then I say the other car, and said oh. Then I looked at that Police man in the car and I thought he gave me a peace sign so I told Jesse about it. She said "Maybe he was flipping you off for looking at him while he was pulled over." So I explained that I was talking about the police officer not the guy pulled over. Then while we were pulling through town Jesse started talking about how upset she was that they burned down the brown building near the light. And I said that I had seen a bunch of fire trucks there too. She was talking about how she was always confused why there were always fire trucks there, saying that maybe an Old Lady kept calling for help when she didn't need it. I wanted to go up and see it and for a minute I thought we were going to but then we turned onto the road we always do to go to school. I felt like Jesse wanted to go up and drive by it too.
When we were walking into the school I saw Tyler on his bus. Then Christian started walking behind us while Jesse was explaining something I can't remember to me. I just hit Him in the chest and told him that I liked him. We walked in the school and passed Jesse's cousin and told me how she just wanted to call him Ben-ifer.
So when Jesse got to her locker I figured I wouldn't see her for the rest of the morning. So I walked all the way down to the end of the hallway where my locker is. I looked around for people I stand with and they weren't there yet so I just put all of my stuff in my locker and hung my trench coat up in Mr. Higgin's room. Then I went walking to find someone to stand with. I looked in Ms. Linds room when I walked by in case there was someone in there. I knew that if there wasn't anyone in there I could always go to the stage. So when I got there there were cool people standing outside the stage door, I assumed it was locked. I tried to push Tyler into the middle of the circle so I could stand in his spot and Angela tried to help a little bit. Then he was like "No, blahblahblah you're not going to do that." I didn't know if he thought I was seriously trying to push him out of the circle or if he knew I was kidding. Then I saw Angela's Breakfast and I wanted some. So when she left the circle to get something I left to go get breakfast in the cafeteria. I got some kind of bar thing with chocolate in it and a chocolate milk. When I was leaving the cafeteria I was going the opposite way of my homeroom because I was going to do Pre Calc homework in Mrs. Snyders room before my 1st period Pre Calc class. While I was walking out I notice all of the people that hang out in the cafeteria in the morning. I thought about how weird it must be to hang out there. There I realized that them hanging out in the cafeteria before the bell is like me hanging out in Ms. Linds or on the stage before the bell rings.
So I went walking down the main hallway. I could see Sam from halfway down the hall so I felt encouraged to walk faster. Then I could see Patrick standing with him. There were 3 larger groups standing around them that aren't usually in the hallway at the same time as us. It felt really bizarre to have so many people that I don't know/care about to be in/near our spot of standing. Then Angela joined us and they we talked about how crowded it was but how we weren't going to move. Then the one to the left of us left and Mrs. Wright was coming near her room and told all of us in the hallway that we had to move away from in front of her door. So we didn't move, because we weren't the ones in front of her door, we left the group to the right of us move around us to stand on the other side. Then the bell rang and we didn't move right away. Angela said she wasn't going to her homeroom while Patrick left for his. Sam said that his homeroom didn't count. So I said I was going to Mrs. Snyder's for Pre Calc homework. and I could hear Angela asking Sam to walk her to a class. Then I imagined the rest of the conversation from there. So I walked into Ms. Snyder's room and just sat down in a different seat than I usually do because there was a girl from my English class sitting there. So I sat down without asking if I could stay and starting working on homework. I got up and go paper and saw one of my painfully quiet friends sitting at another table and realized how I don't talk to her all that often because she's so quiet all the time. Then I tried to imagine college and how I probably wouldn't maintain communication with her.
I went to call my homeroom, but I knew that It would be a substitute because Ms. Coppa is in Africa. So I called and it was the sub and I was all nice to her over the phone. But when I hung up I was just glad that I was doing math and not going to homeroom.
I couldn't hear anyone in the living room, so I figured my brothers wouldn't be up yet, so if I got everything I needed right then I could go get in the shower without being interrupted. So I grabbed the clothes I had picked out in my head the day before and went and took a shower. Before I went into the bathroom I brought the phone with me so I could call Jesse RIGHT after I got out of the shower. Because I knew that she wouldn't get up until at least after 7. So I turned on the Get Set Go CD that was in the cd player in the bathroom and I took a shower. I looked at the new clock that's hanging over the toilet just to use it because it's new and tells the time. I use to determine how long I was in the shower by how many songs had already played.
So when I got out of the shower it was about a quarter after 7. I picked up the phone and called Jesse. Her mom answered and I asked her to ask Jesse for a ride to school. I could hear her asking Jesse through a door and I could hear Jesse's answer being yes. So when I hung up I swallowed a pill I had put and taken out of my mouth while the phone was ringing. I figured I didn't have enough time or hands to swallow it properly. So I took it with a handful of water, then I got dressed. I took my tooth brush and toothpaste out of the bathroom with me and brought it out to the kitchen sink. I decided to brush my teeth out there so my brothers could get into the bathroom so they could get ready for school.
I brushed my teeth while Garett was eating a peanut butter sandwich. When I was done, I went to my room and slipped on my shoes. Then I remembered that I had to get money for my overdue cellphone bill. So I took it out of the little place I keep my money and put it into my wallet. Then my mom came in and reminded me that I had to pay my phone bill. I told her I just got the money for it. Then we started talking about what we were doing after school and I had to remind her that we were going to activate my card for when I go to Spain. We decided that she was going to pick me up at 3 after school. My cat came in and I started talking to him. Then my mom and my cat left so I decided to blow dry my hair.
I knew that I could do my make-up in Jesse's car so I decided not to bother with it at that time. So while I was blow-drying my hair I was thinking about what it would be line to blow-dry my hair in college. And if my roommate would be that girl I met at the softball thing on friday. And if it would be creepy for me to ask her if she wanted to be my roommate. When I was done blow-drying my hair I wondered how cold it was outside. Because if it was going to be like the day before I was going to wear my trench coat Katie bought me. So I started walking through my house asking how cold it would be. When I got to my parents room they told me about 40 degrees.
So I got that coat on and my bags together. Then I decided that I would bring the pink shoes that were on my table I would bring for Jesse to try on, because she has smaller feet than me and they would actually fit. So my mom and brothers went out and got in the Blazer and Jesse pulled in before my mom could pull out. So I walked out of the house with my backpack, and my little sports bag that I use as a purse and the pink shoes. I felt a little embarrassed about how the athletic bag wouldn't go with what I was wearing at all. And especially not my trench coat. But I got in the car and I told her that I brought the shoes for her to wear and she said "Good, because I really like them." Then she started talking about how she knew my mom was in the blazer and that she blocked her in. I told her it was okay, then I told her that the traffic was clear to pull out into the road. Then she looked backward while she drove and I remember thinking that she didn't have to because I don't look backward when I pull out of my driveway. Then I decided that it was okay for her to do it because we all drive differently.
She was telling me about the Semi-Formal I missed by starting out saying "I hate how people have to pick on someone because of their weight." I didn't know what she was talking about. Then she said that some girl that's friend with the person she's having trouble with. She said that the friend had said that "she had fat hanging out of her dress". So she ranted about her and so I called the friend Skanky. We talked about it for a while, then we were on a totally different topic for a while. When we were in Newport, even though the subject was long passed, all I could think was that that friend is a skank. So I told Jesse about that, then when we were going into the elementary school zone a cop was coming out, and I got nervous but then I reminded myself that we weren't doing anything wrong. Then further up in the school zone a cop had pulled someone over, then I thought about how I've seen at least 4 people pulled over in the past week and how I usually don't see many people pulled over. Then I was looking at the rear lights and I remember thinking before that they were blinkers or something. Then I thought that there was no one pulled over because I couldn't see anyone behind the police car the way it was parked. So I asked "Does he want to get out?" Then I say the other car, and said oh. Then I looked at that Police man in the car and I thought he gave me a peace sign so I told Jesse about it. She said "Maybe he was flipping you off for looking at him while he was pulled over." So I explained that I was talking about the police officer not the guy pulled over. Then while we were pulling through town Jesse started talking about how upset she was that they burned down the brown building near the light. And I said that I had seen a bunch of fire trucks there too. She was talking about how she was always confused why there were always fire trucks there, saying that maybe an Old Lady kept calling for help when she didn't need it. I wanted to go up and see it and for a minute I thought we were going to but then we turned onto the road we always do to go to school. I felt like Jesse wanted to go up and drive by it too.
When we were walking into the school I saw Tyler on his bus. Then Christian started walking behind us while Jesse was explaining something I can't remember to me. I just hit Him in the chest and told him that I liked him. We walked in the school and passed Jesse's cousin and told me how she just wanted to call him Ben-ifer.
So when Jesse got to her locker I figured I wouldn't see her for the rest of the morning. So I walked all the way down to the end of the hallway where my locker is. I looked around for people I stand with and they weren't there yet so I just put all of my stuff in my locker and hung my trench coat up in Mr. Higgin's room. Then I went walking to find someone to stand with. I looked in Ms. Linds room when I walked by in case there was someone in there. I knew that if there wasn't anyone in there I could always go to the stage. So when I got there there were cool people standing outside the stage door, I assumed it was locked. I tried to push Tyler into the middle of the circle so I could stand in his spot and Angela tried to help a little bit. Then he was like "No, blahblahblah you're not going to do that." I didn't know if he thought I was seriously trying to push him out of the circle or if he knew I was kidding. Then I saw Angela's Breakfast and I wanted some. So when she left the circle to get something I left to go get breakfast in the cafeteria. I got some kind of bar thing with chocolate in it and a chocolate milk. When I was leaving the cafeteria I was going the opposite way of my homeroom because I was going to do Pre Calc homework in Mrs. Snyders room before my 1st period Pre Calc class. While I was walking out I notice all of the people that hang out in the cafeteria in the morning. I thought about how weird it must be to hang out there. There I realized that them hanging out in the cafeteria before the bell is like me hanging out in Ms. Linds or on the stage before the bell rings.
So I went walking down the main hallway. I could see Sam from halfway down the hall so I felt encouraged to walk faster. Then I could see Patrick standing with him. There were 3 larger groups standing around them that aren't usually in the hallway at the same time as us. It felt really bizarre to have so many people that I don't know/care about to be in/near our spot of standing. Then Angela joined us and they we talked about how crowded it was but how we weren't going to move. Then the one to the left of us left and Mrs. Wright was coming near her room and told all of us in the hallway that we had to move away from in front of her door. So we didn't move, because we weren't the ones in front of her door, we left the group to the right of us move around us to stand on the other side. Then the bell rang and we didn't move right away. Angela said she wasn't going to her homeroom while Patrick left for his. Sam said that his homeroom didn't count. So I said I was going to Mrs. Snyder's for Pre Calc homework. and I could hear Angela asking Sam to walk her to a class. Then I imagined the rest of the conversation from there. So I walked into Ms. Snyder's room and just sat down in a different seat than I usually do because there was a girl from my English class sitting there. So I sat down without asking if I could stay and starting working on homework. I got up and go paper and saw one of my painfully quiet friends sitting at another table and realized how I don't talk to her all that often because she's so quiet all the time. Then I tried to imagine college and how I probably wouldn't maintain communication with her.
I went to call my homeroom, but I knew that It would be a substitute because Ms. Coppa is in Africa. So I called and it was the sub and I was all nice to her over the phone. But when I hung up I was just glad that I was doing math and not going to homeroom.
Friday, March 6, 2009
The Appeal of the Bad Boy
Nando Pelusi Ph. D discusses attraction. 
Not just plain attraction, but when women seemingly get attracted to the 'wrong guy'. When the wrong guy is a 'player' or a 'bad boy'. Pelusi talks about Karen, and how she's a 32-year-old woman who is successful and good-looking. She says that she becomes powerfully attracted to men who turn out to be Mr. Wrong. She was drawn to those "bad boys."
Pelusi brings the topic to the other side of the spectrum by talking about a nice-guy named Adam. Who actually took a class about "picking up chicks". The main criteria for this class was to teach men to act strong and dominant. Unfortunately for Adam he couldn't find the correct degree of Badness and he instead came across as rude.
These condident cocky men get compared to Peacocks, showing off their plumage. Their traits are deemed likely to get a girl, but not keep her for long. THey just have the genes to make women instantly attracted to them. Pelusi talks about the concept from a Darwinian point of view. Males compete for women's attention because they're the choosier sex. Then when a relationship seems fleeting, women are more likly to take a risk on the more high quality men. Pelusi Says, " Evolutionary psychologists define "good genes" for men as high-testosterone-fueled masculinity, symmetry, height, and, believe it or not, parasite resistance."
I find this article interesting. I helps women better understand why they're attracted to these "bad boys". It's only the fact that they're more dominate, and our primal instincts tell us to be more attracted to the strong provider kind. But now those men have developed a more reckless behavior. This article doesn't give any new information to the psychological world. It is however an interesting article, that may help clarify to women why they're attracted to the 'players' and the 'Mr. Wrongs' in this world.
Pelusi Ph.D, Nando. Neanderthink: The Appeal of the Bad Boy. Jan/Feb 2009. Psychology Today. March 6, 2009.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-4758.html&fromMod=emailed
Not just plain attraction, but when women seemingly get attracted to the 'wrong guy'. When the wrong guy is a 'player' or a 'bad boy'. Pelusi talks about Karen, and how she's a 32-year-old woman who is successful and good-looking. She says that she becomes powerfully attracted to men who turn out to be Mr. Wrong. She was drawn to those "bad boys."Pelusi brings the topic to the other side of the spectrum by talking about a nice-guy named Adam. Who actually took a class about "picking up chicks". The main criteria for this class was to teach men to act strong and dominant. Unfortunately for Adam he couldn't find the correct degree of Badness and he instead came across as rude.
These condident cocky men get compared to Peacocks, showing off their plumage. Their traits are deemed likely to get a girl, but not keep her for long. THey just have the genes to make women instantly attracted to them. Pelusi talks about the concept from a Darwinian point of view. Males compete for women's attention because they're the choosier sex. Then when a relationship seems fleeting, women are more likly to take a risk on the more high quality men. Pelusi Says, " Evolutionary psychologists define "good genes" for men as high-testosterone-fueled masculinity, symmetry, height, and, believe it or not, parasite resistance."
I find this article interesting. I helps women better understand why they're attracted to these "bad boys". It's only the fact that they're more dominate, and our primal instincts tell us to be more attracted to the strong provider kind. But now those men have developed a more reckless behavior. This article doesn't give any new information to the psychological world. It is however an interesting article, that may help clarify to women why they're attracted to the 'players' and the 'Mr. Wrongs' in this world.
Pelusi Ph.D, Nando. Neanderthink: The Appeal of the Bad Boy. Jan/Feb 2009. Psychology Today. March 6, 2009.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-4758.html&fromMod=emailed
Friday, February 27, 2009
Dreaming
I had a dream that I was going to go to prom but I forgot to buy a dress. The prom took place at my elementary/middle school. There was a girl there that had two dresses and when she decided on one she threw the other in the back of a pick up truck. Then I thought that I would go to a softball meeting at Thomas College instead of prom (no one that I liked was at prom anyway). But then I realized that I would never make it there in time so I decided to forget about both.
Interpreting?
I think that the fact that I forgot to buy a key part for an event relates to how I'm always forgetting important things. I think I have unresolved somethings toward my former school because it's always popping into my dreams. Maybe I want to go back to an easier schooling instead of proceed onto college because the process is so difficult. Then I think that the girl throwing her second dress into the back of a truck is expressing how I feel like I don't have as much money as the people around me. Then there is the procrastination and tardiness that is present in my waking life. I think it is emphasised and expresses my willingness to just give up when things aren't easy.
Interpreting?
I think that the fact that I forgot to buy a key part for an event relates to how I'm always forgetting important things. I think I have unresolved somethings toward my former school because it's always popping into my dreams. Maybe I want to go back to an easier schooling instead of proceed onto college because the process is so difficult. Then I think that the girl throwing her second dress into the back of a truck is expressing how I feel like I don't have as much money as the people around me. Then there is the procrastination and tardiness that is present in my waking life. I think it is emphasised and expresses my willingness to just give up when things aren't easy.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Worst Time of the Year for Breakups?
Oh, Valentines Day. One of the most dreaded yet most celebrated of the holi
days. For some, this holiday may raise sadness and depression. In Abraham Morgentaler's article he explains some affects Valentines Day brings. For those who are single they have to endure the marketing for the bells and whistles of romance. Morgentaler doesn't stop at the stress Valentines Day has on all the single ladies and gentlemen out there. He goes on to speak out on the behalf of couples who lack physical intimacy and those couples that want to discontinue but Valentines Day steps in their way.
Morgentaler goes on to describe what Valentines Day really is, the last reason for forced togetherness. The forced togetherness starts in November with Thanksgiving and works its way through December and January for Christmas and New Years. Valentines day is the last big holiday, for a while, that requires togetherness and happy feelings. As Morgentaler describes, February 15th is a standstill. There is nothing left for cracking couples to look forward to and leaves them option to move on.
Although the focus seems to be on the affects of Valentines Day, Morgentaler's main objective is to help people who just got out of a relationships (whether it was right after Valentines Day or not). He gives out 3 points that can be summed up like so: 1) Regardless of age and circumstances Break-ups are painful, but pain actually alleviates in time 2) Relationships shouldn't be compared to movies and there is always something you can learn from them and 3) There was a reason you were attracted to a former lover and you should acknowledge and appreciate that fact.
Although Morgentaler covers something as fluffy as Valentines Day, it doesn't make this a bad article or unhelpful to the world of psychology. Romance and personal relationships are what keep a humanbeing on its feet. Learning how to deal with the ending of long lasting personal relationships is a useful piece of knowledge. I believe that this information could be helpful to those who need a better understanding of the "rules" of Valentines Day.
Morgentaler, M.D., Abraham. Worst Time of the Year for Breakups? Feb 17. 2009. Psychology Today. 18 Feb 2009.
<http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/men-sex-and-testosterone/200902/worst-time-the-year-breakups>
days. For some, this holiday may raise sadness and depression. In Abraham Morgentaler's article he explains some affects Valentines Day brings. For those who are single they have to endure the marketing for the bells and whistles of romance. Morgentaler doesn't stop at the stress Valentines Day has on all the single ladies and gentlemen out there. He goes on to speak out on the behalf of couples who lack physical intimacy and those couples that want to discontinue but Valentines Day steps in their way.Morgentaler goes on to describe what Valentines Day really is, the last reason for forced togetherness. The forced togetherness starts in November with Thanksgiving and works its way through December and January for Christmas and New Years. Valentines day is the last big holiday, for a while, that requires togetherness and happy feelings. As Morgentaler describes, February 15th is a standstill. There is nothing left for cracking couples to look forward to and leaves them option to move on.
Although the focus seems to be on the affects of Valentines Day, Morgentaler's main objective is to help people who just got out of a relationships (whether it was right after Valentines Day or not). He gives out 3 points that can be summed up like so: 1) Regardless of age and circumstances Break-ups are painful, but pain actually alleviates in time 2) Relationships shouldn't be compared to movies and there is always something you can learn from them and 3) There was a reason you were attracted to a former lover and you should acknowledge and appreciate that fact.
Although Morgentaler covers something as fluffy as Valentines Day, it doesn't make this a bad article or unhelpful to the world of psychology. Romance and personal relationships are what keep a humanbeing on its feet. Learning how to deal with the ending of long lasting personal relationships is a useful piece of knowledge. I believe that this information could be helpful to those who need a better understanding of the "rules" of Valentines Day.
Morgentaler, M.D., Abraham. Worst Time of the Year for Breakups? Feb 17. 2009. Psychology Today. 18 Feb 2009.
<http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/men-sex-and-testosterone/200902/worst-time-the-year-breakups>
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